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You can also follow Jeremy on Pintrest.  This is literally the only social networking he does.  His boards are much more woodworking, DIY, and Halloween focused than anything else.

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We look forward to connecting with all of you!

Surrogacy update: Giving myself shots


In preparation for carrying the baby I’m about to carry, I have to take a boat load of medications. The first one was the birth control pill, which we used to manipulate my cycle into the right place to suit our schedule. It had been so long since I used birth control pills, I had forgotten what it felt like to be on them! Or maybe, because I started them when I was so young, I never knew that how I felt wasn’t normal. Continue reading

Guest Post: Ben from Anicca Acres

Ben working Anicca Acres.

Ben working Anicca Acres.

Welcome to our newest feature on Rocking the Homestead, where we’ll take a look at other kick ass, rocking homesteads across the internet!  Today we’re going to check out the homestead of an old Army buddy of mine, Ben and his wife, Kelsey. Ben blogs at Continue reading

People’s Climate March

I’m sure everyone has heard of the People’s Climate March taking place in New York City September 21st, and for a brief moment in time, I thought I would be able to attend it.  That would have been a dream come true for me, but unfortunately, due to some medical appointments I have to keep having to do with the surrogacy, I am unable to attend.   Continue reading

The prettiest coleslaw you’ll ever make (it’s also yummy)


I wish I had taken a picture of this with my real camera, to really do it justice, because this coleslaw was just beautiful. The problem was that it was also delicious, which meant that Freja and I gobbled it up so fast there was no going to get my camera. I’m lucky I got a camera phone shot in time!

Apple Kale Cole Slaw

3/4 cup mayo
2 tbs sugar of choice (I used evaporated cane juice, coconut sugar would likely work well, honey might make it too runny)
2 tbs Dijon mustard
3 tbs coconut vinegar
1 package coleslaw mix (or shred about a half head of cabbage and some carrots)
2 red apples, finely sliced (I used Galas)
5-10 large leafs of kale

1. Mix mayo, mustard, sugar, and vinegar to make your coleslaw dressing.
2. Stir in coleslaw mix
3. Finely slice your apples. I started out cutting mine like tiny match sticks, but that was so time consuming, I ended up just doing super thin, half moon shaped slices. Once they are sliced, stir them in with your coleslaw.
4. Shred your kale. I like to take the stems out of the leaves, because that part is pretty tough, but that’s up to you. Coarsely shred the kale leaves and mix it in with the rest of the coleslaw.
5. Eat up!

Big news on the homestead!

Today I am excited to announce to you all a new venture we will be working on here at the Rocking Homestead. I have decided to serve as a gestational carrier for an amazing family I have gotten to know and love over the past year.

Pregnancy has always come easy for me. I wasn’t even trying when I got pregnant with Elijah, in fact, I was actively not trying to get pregnant! It took very little trying to get pregnant with Freja. And once I was pregnant, my pregnancies have been exceptionally smooth. No serious complications, and only a few of the common complaints that most pregnant women have. I even have had fairly easy births, as births go. With all this ease, I have felt strongly that I would like to give back to people who have not had it as easy.

When I first started looking into this, I figured I would be working with a gay couple, hopefully locally. I met the family I would be working with through a friend of a friend, and they were nothing like what I imagined. They were a straight couple, who had already had two other babies through two other surrogacies. More than that, they were not local, they didn’t even live in the US! They lived in Paris, though the mom was from here, originally, and much of her family still lived here in Denver. Even though they were different than what I had imagined, I clicked with them immediately and knew I wanted to work with them. They are an amazing family.

I feel really good and excited about helping them to complete their family. As a birth doula, I sort of see this as the ultimate doulaing experience. It’s giving me a whole new perspective on and appreciation for pregnancy, and what lengths people go to to make their families. There are lots of different roads to family, and I am honored to be able to help people walk their road in any way I can.

I want to share this journey here, because I think it’s pretty cool and interesting. The process of making a life is so miraculous and mysterious, it’s really amazing what all can be done to help families achieve their dreams. I look forward to sharing this journey with you all!

Hello World!

Can I get real with you guys for a minute?

I know you may not be able to tell from my super classy header and all of my cell phone photos and stuff, but I am not a professional blogger.

Shocking, right?

I’d like to be, one day, but right now between school and work and raising two little kids and running a homestead, I just don’t have time to get this blog set up all professional like.  My long time readers, there’s about 25 of you, and most of you are people I was in the Army with or go to school with.  I’m a small time blogger. Continue reading


I can’t tell you how often I am asked (or hear others ask) what works for weeds. This is a tough question to answer. What do you mean by “works”?

If you are meaning what will make them go away and never come back, the answer is nothing. Even in Carthage, where the Romans salted the earth so many centuries ago to obliterate any chance of culture forming there again, there is now fertile earth that supports, amongst many plant life, weeds.

But perhaps you mean just for your lifetime, or even just a year? Salting the earth might work for your lifetime, but for just a year, I’d say nothing “works”. Nothing organic, nothing that they sell at the hardware store or garden center, nothing will get them all for very long. Chemicals break down, and anything legal today is designed to break down fairly quickly to minimize it’s risk of getting into our water or doing long term damage to the soil (note: it still does those things, just to a lesser degree than, say, DDT). So if you spray something, it might kill the plants, but there may be seeds still in your yard that will outlast the chemical you sprayed, and will sprout and grow. Or new seeds will be blown in, or carried in by birds, mice, squirrels, etc.

Honestly, though, I’m skeptical that most chemical solutions, whether store bought (like RoundUp) or home made (like the dish soap and vinegar concoction everyone seems so fond of online) actually kill weeds. Having used them a few times in my life, I’m pretty sure all they do is wilt the leaves. So before long, they spring back, along with all those seeds in mentioned above. Meanwhile, we’re getting harmful chemicals into our water and air through spraying, and we’re killing off the micro biome in the soil that allows plants to get nutrients from the soil (which eventually end up in us and other animals that eat those plants), decompose dead things, and support any kind of life that hasn’t specifically evolved to thrive in sterile soil (in other words, weeds). The eventual outcome of spraying, yes, even vinegar, is the creation of soil in which only weeds can grow, and if the weeds have no competition for space from other plants, they will grow, aggressively. At that point, though, it’s probably good that the weeds grow. They’re the only thing that will bring life back to the dead soil.

Given this experience, and my knowledge of what these chemicals do to our water and the soil microbiome, my preferred methods of weeding are digging and torching. Digging is the most effective. When you get the majority of a root up out of the ground, you know that weed is dead and gone forever. Yes, it may have left seeds, but it won’t survive to make any more. If you don’t get the whole root, there’s still a chance that weed is dead, and even if it grows back, you’ve seriously stunted it’s ability to make seeds, meaning it might reproduce less this season than it would have had you not dug it.

Torching works much like spraying, but is way less toxic. And it’s kind of fun. I don’t think it gets the root very well in most cases, but it’s no worse than sprays, and way better for our soil and water.

I am not sentimental about weeds. You won’t hear me describing dandelions as wildflowers, or keeping lambs ear growing because it can be medicinal. I learned my lesson about letting purslane have a place in my garden, and I advise people to pull anything they don’t recognize in their garden. But I also have taken a realistic viewpoint on weeds, and stopped looking for some magic fix for them. Weeds will always be there, always keep coming, and I have to accept and make peace with the fact that I will always need to meet them to do battle against them in my yard. This is the nature of life, and frankly I would be scared and worried if something stopped their constant assault. The loss of weeds, plants that evolved with civilization to thrive in the destruction we reap upon all other life, would be a pretty big dead canary in our metaphorical coal mine. Weeds are our promise that life can find a way in even the most dismal conditions, and to find a way to squelch that permanently would spell certain doom for more delicate creatures, like ourselves.

Open Letter to Matt and Stacy of Paleo Parents

Today's open letter is to Matt and Stacy of Paleo Parents!

Today’s open letter is to Matt and Stacy of Paleo Parents!

I started writing this letter to Matt and (especially) Stacy from Paleo Parents in response to one of their newsletters I got recently, and started thinking that it would make a great open letter blog post!  I am huge fan of Matt and Stacy, for one, because their recipes are amazing, but also because Stacy is seriously inspirational.  She had a great deal of health problems before goingpaleo, and has managed to reverse almost all of them (actually, their whole family reversed health problems).  Furthermore, she has gotten involved in Strong Man competitions and can kick some serious ass out there.  I mean, she can totally lift cars and junk!!  That’s impressive.  It’s especially cool, I think, because Stacy is a woman of size.  Though she did lose a lot of weight goingpaleo, she still gets a lot of flack from haters for not having gotten thin enough for their standards.  Apparently, her excellent health and amazing strength are not enough for thesizists of the world, proving once again that their concerns aren’t over health, but rather justifying their own bigotry.  Standing up to those people have made her and her super supportive husband, Matt, the most prominent size positive voices in thepaleo community (in fact, they may be the only ones outside of me, I’m not familiar with any others). Continue reading

Subversive Health Eating Challenge

Subversive Health Eating Challenge

Recently, I tried participating in a body positive Whole 30 with Jen from Plus Size Birth and several other women in the plus size birth community. I say “tried” because I wasn’t successful. As I’ve discussed before, Whole 30 is just too rigid for life. At least the kind of life I want to lead. And about the only time of the year I can put my life on hold long enough to do an eating challenge is January. Nothing happens in January. Except the Super Bowl, I suppose, and I was able to stay mostly Whole 30 compliant with that last year. Continue reading

WTF, recycled toilet paper?


Last time we went to Costco they were out of charmin. “Now is my chance,” I thought “to switch my family to recycled!” I thought this was an amazing opportunity, certainly my family would rebel against the move if it weren’t a necessity as it is now. I put the recycled toilet paper in the bottom of the cart with glee.

Can I just say now how much I hate this toilet paper?

Can someone please explain to me why recycled toilet paper can’t be soft? Or absorbent? Or strong enough not to disintegrate upon coming in contact with anything moist? Is only virgin paper pulp capable of producing these qualities, or something? Or is it just that makers of recycled toilet paper assume that all environmentalists want to suffer for their cause, so they make sure the toilet paper feels like sandpaper (albeit fine grain) and falls apart so easily you might as well be wiping with your bare hand half the time?

I don’t get it. Maybe if I did, it would be easier to make the sacrifice, but if the answer is just “caring about the environment means giving up everything comfortable”, fuck that.

I know a few years ago environmentalists were up in arms about quilted, double ply toilet paper because it is wasteful, but the fact is that I used three squares per job of Charmin (4 squares for occasional, messier than usual jobs), and I’m easily using 20 squares per job with this recycled crap. Which one seems more wasteful now? And sometimes this toilet paper is straight up painful! Like many women who have carried and birthed large babies (both of mine were more than 9 lbs at birth), I have lingering issues that are incredibly irritated by being scrubbed with paper the same texture as newsprint multiple times a day. Sometimes, when this problem is especially irritated, I like to spray a little witch hazel on some toilet paper and wipe with that, but that’s impossible with this toilet paper, if I even think about spraying a liquid on this toilet paper, it dissolves into paper mâché in my hands.

Recycled toilet paper (which is recycled from other paper products, not from used toilet paper) should be a no brainer. It makes zero sense to be wiping our asses with virgin wood pulp. What incredible gluttony!! But no one is going to get on board with this kind of thing if it’s miserable. Now if I want to get my family using something greener than Charmin, I’m going to have to pitch the family cloth idea, and that is not going to to be an easy sell, let me tell you. More likely, our venture into recycled toilet paper will lead us right back to Charmin, unfortunately. Recycled toilet paper totally fails.