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A Valentines lesson in conscious consumerism

Conscious Consumerism, Holidays, Parenting By February 12, 2016 Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , 2 Comments
Elijah's Valentines this year

Elijah’s Valentines this year

I have never been big on Valentines. I don’t know why, I used to claim that it was because of feminism or commercialism, and even that it reminded me of the pain of growing up not being conventionally pretty and not feeling like I had the hope for romance the holiday celebrated, but maybe it’s just that I don’t like this time of year. Its cold and snowy and I just want to start planting stuff so bad. Who’s bright idea was it to put a holiday exclusively about romance in the middle of a season where it’s too cold to wear anything pretty or sexy on a date? (Probably someone who didn’t live in USDA Zone 4-5, I guess) It just seems like a holiday that shouldn’t be that big of a deal, like St. Patricks Day or Groundhog Day, but that people get waaaaay too obsessed over. As an adult, the part of Valentine’s Day that bugs me the most is the school party. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about holiday parties at school, but I just don’t like Valentines Day. The era of Pinterest has only made school parties higher pressure than ever, and I can manage that at Halloween (because I love Halloween), but Valentine’s Day? Blech.


How To Be Alive: RTH Book Club Selection January 2016

Activism, Book Club, Climate Justice and Environmentalism, Community, Parenting, Social Justice By January 30, 2016 Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , No Comments

A quote from How To Be Alive, by Colin Beavan.

A quote from How To Be Alive, by Colin Beavan.

Our first ever book club! Woo! How did we do? The selection for this month was Colin Beavan’s latest book, How to Be Alive: A Guide to the Kind of Happiness that Helps the World. I chose this book for a number of reasons, not the least of which was the fact that I was a huge fan of Beavan’s last project and book, No Impact Man. I discovered his No Impact Man blog when I was pregnant with Elijah, and it launched me down a new road in environmentalism. I was especially drawn to his ideas about what really brings happiness in life, so when I heard he was writing an entire book devoted to that subject, I was pretty stoked.


Birth of the Socialist Housekeeping Regime

Family Life, House keeping, Parenting By December 21, 2015 Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , 2 Comments

A lot of homesteading bloggers spend a lot of time talking about how they keep their home. Maybe it’s so that they’ll have something to write about in the winter. Maybe it’s because some homesteader types are also June Cleaver, good housewife, often slightly creepy religious types, and they just love their cleaning as part of their traditional gender roles. I have stated before that I don’t want to dwell on that topic, partly because it’s boring as hell (cleaning sucks), and partly because it always seems to end up sounding slightly sexist. But I’ll let you in on a little secret; it’s also because I suck balls at it.


Deep convos with my oldest child : Boobs

Feminism, Parenting By July 8, 2014 Tags: , , , , No Comments

I love Elijah more than life itself, but sometimes I wonder how he came from me. It just seems like we have so little in common some days, I want to scream that both nature and nurture are bullshit!

And then there are times we have these little conversations that make me think “Oh yeah, there’s my handiwork!” Today was one of those days.


No matter how many Princesses Finn kissed, he still wasn’t asking for it

Current Events, Feminism, Parenting By June 16, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , 9 Comments
Nothing rapey about this ...

Nothing rapey about this …

We are huge Aventure Time fans in our family. We have watched since season 1 and hope there will be many more years of seasons to come. We’re geeks like that.

That being said, I am highly disgusted by one of the most recent episodes, Breezy. To sum this episode up, a very depressed Finn (who, if you don’t know, is a young teen orphan boy, who was raised by dogs, and who recently lost his arm in a failed attempt to establish a relationship with his deadbeat biologic father) gets stalked and groomed by a pedophiley bee, and then sexually assaulted by Lumpy Space Princess (a secondary character who makes regular appearances on the show).

Yeah, this is a children’s show.


Circumcision and ethnocentrism

Feminism, Parenting, Social Justice By May 30, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , 1 Comment


I am an intactivist. For those who don’t know, that means I oppose routine infant circumcision and all forms of genital cutting performed on minors without medical necessity (this goes for male, female, and intersex children). It does not mean I oppose circumcision in general, it just means that I believe strongly that the only person who has a right to make that choice is the person the procedure is being performed on.



Educational Activities, Parenting, Social Justice By May 26, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , 2 Comments


When Elijah was born I knew right away I would never put him into Boy Scouts. The Boy Scouts were not inclusive, and for all I knew Elijah might be gay. More than that, I didn’t want to support an organization that was bigoted towards LGBTQI people. It just doesn’t match up with our family values. Even now that they have made the move to allow gay scouts in the program, I am still offended at their refusal to allow LGBTQI troop leaders, as if they think anyone who doesn’t fit into their narrow gender/sexuality binary is a child molester.


To all the judgey moms at the play ground

Community, Feminism, Parenting By May 13, 2014 1 Comment
Dear Mom On the iPhone, I see you over there on the bench, messing on your iPhone. It feels good to relax a little while your kids have fun in the sunshine, doesn’t it? You are doing a great job with your kids, you work hard, you teach them manners, have them do their chores. But Mom, let me tell you what you don’t see right now….. Your little girl is spinning round and round, making her dress twirl. She is such a little beauty queen already, the sun shining behind her long hair. She keeps glancing your way to see if you are watching her. You aren’t. Your little boy keeps shouting, “Mom, MOM watch this!” I see you acknowledge him, barely glancing his way. He sees that too. His shoulders slump, but only for a moment, as he finds the next cool thing to do. Now you are pushing your baby in the swing. She loves it! Cooing and smiling with every push. You don’t see her though, do you? Your head is bent, your eyes on your phone as you absently push her swing. Talk to her. Tell her about the clouds, Mommy. Tickle her tummy when she comes near you and enjoy that baby belly laugh that leaves far too quickly. Put your eyes back on your prize…Your kids. Show them that they are the priority. Wherever you are, be ALL there. I am not saying it’s not ok to check in on your phone, but it’s a time-sucker: User Beware! Play time at the park will be over before you know it. The childhood of your children will be gone before you know it. They won’t always want to come to the park with you, Mommy. They won’t always spin and twirl to make their new dress swish, they won’t always call out, “WATCH ME!” There will come a point when they stop trying, stop calling your name, stop bothering to interrupt your phone time. Because they know… You’ve shown them, during all of these moments, that the phone is more important than they are. They see you looking at it at while waiting to pick up brother from school, during playtime, at the dinner table, at bedtime….. I know that’s not true, Mommy. I know your heart says differently. But your kids can’t hear your words, Mommy. Your actions are screaming way too loudly. May our eyes rest upon those we love, first and foremost, and may everything else fall away in the wonderful, noisy, sticky-fingered glory of it all.  Disclaimer - this blog post was written by 4 little Fergusons.

Dear Mom On the iPhone,
I see you over there on the bench, messing on your iPhone. It feels good to relax a little while your kids have fun in the sunshine, doesn’t it? You are doing a great job with your kids, you work hard, you teach them manners, have them do their chores.
But Mom, let me tell you what you don’t see right now….. Read the rest here

By now I’m sure everyone has seen this meme going around Facebook, everybody passing it along with statements like “So True!” and “This will never be me again!”  I read it and felt pissed.  Oh great, another thing I’m being judged for at the park.  And anywhere else where mom’s judge each other, which is pretty much everywhere.


I am over being the perfectly zen parent

Feminism, Parenting By April 23, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , 2 Comments

In the parenting circles that I run in, there is a lot of talk about parenting peacefully.  I’m all about peace and generally consider myself to be a pretty low key and permissive parent.  I never spank or use any kind of physical hitting as punishment.  In fact, I don’t punish often at all.  I’m a big believer in natural consequences, compromise when possible, and lots of talking and teaching, rather than punishment.  But more and more, I’m starting to think that all this pressure to be a perfectly zen parent all the time is unrealistic and putting way too much pressure on parents.


Public education resources

Community, Parenting, Public Education By April 9, 2014 Tags: , , , , , , No Comments

I am passionate about supporting public education.  I believe it is vital for strong communities and strong nations, and research backs me up.  I am interested in making sure that all children in the US have access to a top notch, well funded, education, provided by dedicated and well educated staff.

This post is a list of resources and articles surrounding public school and public school issues.  Check back often, as I am always adding to it.